Kathy,
He is finding out his actions and decisions might be taken in stride by
himself, but very serious by others around him. Personally? And this is my
own view, before I'd take Chris back, I'd not even consider it until he has
decided he just can't stand it there no more, not one more day, let him
really feel why that is, the lifestyle, the value system, everything, and
then when he has really had it, fed up to the gills? Then I'd suggest him
looking at his budget and how he can fund an apartment of his own or go in
with some buddies on one, either that or learn to get along with Nikki and
family. From all I've been exposed to in the saga of Chris' ventures,
which no doubt there are tons I don't know, I really can't see how Chris
could possibly learn responsibility of independence and etc and to respect
his family and provision, without having to have learned that for himself.
This would be a great tool in getting him to the plate with the bat ready
to hit the pitches life has given him and the game he chose to enter. He's
got what four months until he is out of high school? Provided he
graduates... I'm not certain of your confidence in that based off your
report of school. The long and short of my point is, take him back now or
even if he looks like he has made some changes, and based off your passed
recounts of his behavior, he'll be 25 years old and still living at home
hanging with the guys. Desperation creates innovation. How many times in
life have we been faced with very tough situations and decisions, many of
which had nothing to do with our own choosing, and it was working through
that situation which made us stronger and confident in life? Oh Lord,
*looking upwards* don't take that as a plea for hard times for any of us
hahahaah. But it is true nonetheless. I am in the midst of such a lesson
with my son, but he is learning and showing signs of responsibility. I
bailed him out once financially but not this time and he is forced to deal
with those he deals with, the bank, credit card, etc. How can they learn
to appreciate the help they've been given if not had to fend for themselves
first hand. That is my 1and a half cents worth.
Brad
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