This is good news. These types of abusers often back down when 
confronted. Possibly the family could confront him in an 
intervention. The sisters the husbands and the parents. Let him know 
they are watching and demand he attend anger management. The reason 
they pick on the infirm and children is because they are cowards and 
insecure. If such an intervention took place and the situation got 
worse the family would need a contingency plan to remove the husband 
from the home or be prepared to take care of your friend. The family 
could also make a police report and ask for a home check. There may 
be a time when your friend is more at risk than other times. Often 
this is when the abuser is drinking. Can your friend easily access 
outside help in an emergency?

At 08:34 PM 3/22/2006, you wrote:
>My friend's parents currently spend their winters in Arizona, and come back
>here April - September (I think).  Both of her sisters live here in town
>with their families, and I know that one is a nurse at the hospital.  She
>also has a brother who lives in a nearby town.  They know about the
>situation but I think they're not sure of what to do.
>
>Thanks,
>Anthony
>Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
>Kathleen Salkin
>Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 9:06 PM
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: Re: I need some more advice
>
>Anthony,
>
>I know it's frustrating to stand by and watch your friend go through
>this -- does she have any family who could act on her behalf if she
>can't speak up for herself?
>
>Kat
>
>On 22 Mar 2006, at 19:51, Anthony Arnold wrote:
>
> > Friends,
> >
> >
> >
> > I'm sure you remember my posting a couple of weeks ago concerning
> > my friend
> > with cerebral palsy whose husband is verbally abusive and doesn't
> > help her
> > with anything.  I'm not sure if you know that I also have the same
> > attendant
> > as this gal, and this morning the attendant was at this couple's house
> > before coming to mine, and the attendant was told to leave or the
> > husband is
> > getting a restraining order against her.  I know that I'm a very
> > intelligent
> > guy, who shouldn't be asking this because I feel it's basic common
> > sense,,
> > but does he have any grounds to do this action?  I have personally
> > had this
> > attendant for almost 5 years, and haven't had any problems which
> > might lead
> > to this action.  Sure when the daughter is home from school, the
> > attendant
> > talks to her, but I don't see any problems with that especially
> > when my
> > friend is right there.
> >
> >
> >
> > Thanks,
> >
> > Anthony