Bravo you did the exactly rite thing.  You have all my prayers and support.
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From: Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Wednesday, December 07, 2005 10:03 AM
Subject: Re: Gretchen.


> Sandy,
>          During this past year, when Chris was the worst, I often
> found myself praying that, if Chris continued to choose to behave
> like the prodigal, that he would go all the way and remove himself to
> a far off place where the Lord could deal with him directly without
> my parenting getting in the way.  I just got to the point where I
> couldn't stand it.  God was gracious to answer my prayer.  I know
> that Chris is still making pour choices and I continue to pray for
> him, but I don't have to have his sin thrown in my face on a daily
> basis any more and that brings tremendous peace.  Oh, I suppose there
> are those, especially those in the world, who are very critical of
> Greg and myself.  They think that we are cruel to have sent Chris
> packing as we have, but our other three children are grateful and we
> are responsible to parent them too, not just chase after Chris.  Phil
> probably put it to me best when he said that Chris didn't have the
> right to dictate what happened in my home through his behavior.  I
> took that sage advice to heart and that means that Greg and I can
> also have a say in when Chris can come home.  Tough love?  You
> bet!  But, I am at peace with it.
> Kathy
>
>
>
> At 04:01 PM 12/6/2005, you wrote:
> >Kathy, the oldest, Little Everett, of Gretchen's children, wants
absolutely
> >nothing to do with her.  Taylor stays with her two nights and then with
his
> >dad two nights, and so on.  This kind of behavior from Gretchen really
isn't
> >helping the kids and we really haven't even shared the half of it here on
> >this list.  I know for some people it is hard to relate to but we can
> >forgive, but that doesn't mean she has to live here.
> >
> >Sandy