Angel,

Sorry to hear about your husband's worsening condition, that has got to be 
terribly difficult. As well your son's behavior. Perhaps those times of 
being spoken to properly  and your positive response to that will show him 
by experience how much more pleasant things can be. The leverage is been 
removed or reduced though society and law for a parent to be able to 
properly discipline or raise kids. So much disrespect is among  kids today 
compared to years ago they grow up not knowing any differently watching 
their peers get away with it. For most of us, if we spoke a cross word to 
one of our parents growing up we'd have gotten a "what for" somehow and 
would have known it was coming the minute we spewed it out of our mouth. 
 From that leverage came the threshold of what you could get away with, and 
ability to build positive relationships. It is very difficult to get that 
leverage back once it is turned backwards, but with God you don't know how 
he can turn it around at any time. With dad being  unable to perform his 
role as parent, that unfortunately leaves you with both, at times being the 
strong bold one, and yet being the compassionate and soft spoken one.

Brad