Recently a friend and I have been discussing forgiveness.  She was hurt by a
former pastor, and still feels  angry towards him, I know we are to forgive
those who hurt us, and it is not even necessary that they apologize, but...
how does one work through those hurt feelings! when one feels ignored,
betrayed, and  these feelings exist after several years, there must be more
there somewhere!
Is it always necessary to discuss a problem with the one who hurt us,  to
resolve it?
and what if we talk and say "I was hurt when  xyz happened" and they act as
though it was a  trivial thing, and something that should have not concerned
us!
Rhonda