The problem with telling their priest about it, is that if the couple talk
to him, I think he cannot go to the cops because of confidentiality, or
maybe that just applies to confession, I don't know. Anybody know?

Anthony, you have been so lucky! Most of us have not been so lucky.

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> [Original Message]
> From: Anthony Arnold <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Date: 2/27/2006 10:29:49 AM
> Subject: Re: Fwd: Marriage
>
> I guess it's typical of abusive situations (unfortunately), but when
they're
> at church together as a family, everybody thinks he is a kind guy helping
> his wife anyway he can, but when they're out of the church environment,
his
> whole attitude changes.  But at church, you can typically get volunteers
to
> help you at home, which is something he wants because he doesn't want to
do
> anything for his wife.  
>
> This gal Also has a personal attendant coming in, and once she requested
her
> attendant to build up their couch, to make it easier for her to get on and
> off, the attendant did, and it was a fairly cheap and simple modification
to
> do, but the husband threw a fit and refused to sit on the couch, and
> actually called the cops on this attendant for trying to do this.  This
> attendant is a RN, and has a license to protect, and didn't want this to
go
> on her record.  The positive thing was the cops were very understanding to
> why the gal needed the couch built up, so they did nothing besides just
> logged the call.  This attitude is very foreign for me, I have always been
> surrounded by people who always have not only accepted but shown some
> interest in my wheelchair and other assistive technology devices that
assist
> me with my daily life.  
>
> Thanks, 
> Anthony 
> Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
> ken barber
> Sent: Monday, February 27, 2006 11:50 AM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Fwd: Marriage
>
> it is definatly abuse. you need to get the woman and
> child some help. i wish i could say that a prist would
> be the way to go, but, i know from experience that
> some religous leaders will not step up and do the
> right thing, many times they take the "see no evil..."
> approach. if the priest does not get her some help,
> then you go somewhere else to get it. 
>
> --- Kathleen Salkin <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>
> > Mag's right, I'd see this as spousal abuse, not as a
> > guy that has got  
> > problems with his wife's disability.  I think you
> > ought to talk to  
> > their priest and see what he says.  If not their
> > parish priest, then  
> > another priest.  Unless he is very conservative on
> > such matters, the  
> > priest should be willing to talk them about this
> > situation.
> > 
> > Maybe the husband has a drinking problem, or even
> > worse, a meth habit  
> > (all too common these days, I fear).  Thus, it's
> > imperative that an  
> > experienced person get in there and evaluate the
> > situation.  Think in  
> > terms of saving that lovely child from harm as well
> > as her mother.
> > 
> > I think the clergy has a moral, if not legal
> > responsibility to report  
> > it to the authorities if he sees that this is a
> > dangerous situation  
> > for the woman and her child.  But something does
> > need to be done.   
> > Too many women die or become severely disabled at
> > the hands of  
> > abusive men.
> > 
> > 
> > Kat
> > 
> > On 27 Feb 2006, at 02:34, Magenta Raine wrote:
> > >
> > > There are many resources for able bodied
> > marriages,  you can look on
> > > Amazon.com for ideas for books. Contact Easter
> > seals, sometimes  
> > > they have
> > > support groups for married folks with
> > disabilities. also look for  
> > > books
> > > that help women have better self esteem.
> > 
>
>
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