Oh, it's good to hear he is doing better.  I will be praying for him,
that he continues to do good and that when he gets home he will be changed
just as you have been told.  I also will be praying for you and Greg, that
he will help you two and ease your minds about the situation, not to orry.
I do think it is good to be realistic though so that you don't get your
hopes up so high and things not be as good as you hoped.

Praying for your family,
Amy
----- Original Message -----
From: Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, March 05, 2005 9:08 AM
Subject: update on life with Chris


> HI  Everybody,
>         Well, I haven't written on this subject for a while, so I thought
that I'd
> give you guys an update.  Chris will be home in two weeks, like it or
> not.  Our phone therapy session yesterday went pretty well, at
> first.  Chris is discovering that he likes getting good grades.  He
studies
> because he has to spend a lot of time in his room and there aren't the
> distractions there that there are here.  He was pretty pleasant.  The
> therapist wishes that they could have more time with him, but there is no
> money for that so, I guess, he will be coming home.
>         We had talked to the therapist ahead of time about how things
would change
> once Chris came home and the session turned sour when the therapist urged
> us into discussing those conditions.  He didn't mind too much about not
> having a cell phone any more, but when he learned that his pay check would
> be direct deposit from now on and that, for now at least, his savings
> acount would be changed to a passbook savings account requiring both he
and
> Greg's permission before money could be withdrawn, he lost it.  Now the
> therapist has two weeks to try to calm him down before he comes home.  He
> is supposed to come home on the 18th, but that is the Friday before Palm
> Sunday so we have asked if he could at least stay through Palm Sunday and
> we pick him up then.  Partly, the reason that I want him to stay those
> extra days is because, if he were to come home on that Friday, Greg would
> work at the post office the next day leaving me alone with Chris his first
> day home and I'm afraid of that.  The therapist has tried to reasure   me
> that he has changed, but the groove in the record is dug too deep for me
to
> believe it without seeing it.
>         Greg and I continue to work on finishing his room downstairs
before he
> gets home.  It's really going to llook nice.  Of course, I pray that he
> appreciates it, but there is always the fear that, if he flies off the
> handle, he'll trash it.  Can't you tell that I"m already getting stressed
> out about his home coming?  Sorry about that.
>         We've talked to another Christian school in the area run by
Calvary
> Chapel.  Greg knows the pastor there.  We've given them the low down on
> Chris and they have agreed to interview him when he gets back to Bangor
and
> decide whether or not they will take him for at least one marking period
so
> that Chris can continue to comply with the requirements of his probation,
> one of which is to stay in school.  They're basically going to lay it on
> the line with him.  They see him at a crossroads right now.  If he wants
to
> strive toward a godly life, they'd love to help him, but they aren't
> interested in dealing with rebellion.  If Chris went back to Bangor
> Christion, where our other two children are, I don't know what would
> happen.  He was expelled from there two years ago and he has failed so
many
> classes in the past two years that he would have to be placed with the
> freshmen still and that probably wouldn't be pretty.  He is okay with the
> idea of not going back to his old highschool and he is saying, while he is
> at Cromwell at least, that his latest round of friends weren't good for
> him.  I just pray that he will keep that perspective once he gets home.
>         Greg and I had toyed with the idea of letting him know that his
instant
> messaging would be monitered, but we decided that that, along with tapping
> his phone conversations, we would keep to ourselves still.  It's probably
> just as well considering how he handled the money issues.  Who knows,
maybe
> he really has changed and is really glad for a new start.  Maybe I'm just
> running from a history that we all wish that we could forget.  If so, then
> I'm sorry for not sounding as though I have more hope.  I'm just trying to
> remain realistic and not be overly optimistic.
>         If we can make it through the next seven months, and help Chris to
become
> an independent adult, it will be wonderful.  Even the therapist yesterday
> said that she thinks that Chris is going to be the next pastor in the
> family.  I can't believe how many people have said that to us.  I just
pray
> that he will truly repent and fall so head over heels in love with Jesus
> that he'll have no desire to look back.
> God bless,
> Kathy
> Always for His glory
>
>
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