I know what you mean.  I have been there.

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> I think its something that needs much prayer. sometimes going to that person
> causes more problems than help
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> cindy
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> Karen Carter <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> Well I know it says in the Bible to go to the person and if they don't respond
> go to a few other christais and then to the whole congration
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> > Recently a friend and I have been discussing forgiveness. She was hurt by a
> > former pastor, and still feels angry towards him, I know we are to forgive
> > those who hurt us, and it is not even necessary that they apologize, but...
> > how does one work through those hurt feelings! when one feels ignored,
> > betrayed, and these feelings exist after several years, there must be more
> > there somewhere!
> > Is it always necessary to discuss a problem with the one who hurt us, to
> > resolve it?
> > and what if we talk and say "I was hurt when xyz happened" and they act as
> > though it was a trivial thing, and something that should have not concerned
> > us!
> > Rhonda
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> <DIV>I think its something that needs much prayer. sometimes going to that
> person causes more problems than help</DIV>
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> <DIV>cindy<BR><BR><B><I>Karen Carter &lt;[log in to unmask]&gt;</I></B>
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> <BLOCKQUOTE class=replbq style="PADDING-LEFT: 5px; MARGIN-LEFT: 5px;
> BORDER-LEFT: #1010ff 2px solid">Well I know it says in the Bible to go to the
> person and if they don't respond go to a few other christais and then to the
> whole congration<BR><BR>--<BR>Christ is either Lord of all or he is not Lord at
> all.<BR>Karen Carter '74<BR><BR><BR><BR>&gt; Recently a friend and I have been
> discussing forgiveness. She was hurt by a<BR>&gt; former pastor, and still feels
> angry towards him, I know we are to forgive<BR>&gt; those who hurt us, and it is
> not even necessary that they apologize, but...<BR>&gt; how does one work through
> those hurt feelings! when one feels ignored,<BR>&gt; betrayed, and these
> feelings exist after several years, there must be more<BR>&gt; there
> somewhere!<BR>&gt; Is it always necessary to discuss a problem with the one who
> hurt us, to<BR>&gt; resolve it?<BR>&gt; and what if we talk and say "I was hurt
> when xyz happened" and they act as<BR>&gt; though it was a trivial
>  thing, and something that should have not concerned<BR>&gt; us!<BR>&gt;
> Rhonda<BR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR><BR><DIV>
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