Hi Kathy,

I can really understand your frustrations

I'm praying for you and your family. God will see you through this. My
thoughts are that you and Greg have done the right thing.

I can't believe this message has been here open on my computer all evening.

Praying for all of you.

Love and Blessings,
Pat Ferguson

At 07:02 AM 6/23/05, you wrote:
>Hi guys,
>         Well, I told you that there would be twists and turns.  Chris
> passed the
>drug test.  That really shocked us until we got home and monitered his
>calls to his girlfriend and his druggy friend and learned that he cheated
>and put water in the cup.  His girlfriends had told him to make sure that
>it was warm, not cold.  Chris followed her advice and got another clean
>report.  Now he thinks that he's in the clear until his court date July
>12th.  Last night, I overheard him trying to meet up with another dealer to
>get some weed.  Chris is getting money because he is doing some odd jobs
>for our neighbor, who doesn't have the greatest reputation either.  this
>guy pays Chris in cash so we never see it.  chris doesn't tell us how much
>he is getting, so we can't put a finger on how much he has so he can keep
>trying to get weed, but pretend to be innocent with us.  It's crazy making.
>         I have to admit that, for me, yesterday was a real
> cricess  moment in my
>faith.  I believe that we did all the right things.  We tried to have
>him  hold Chris accountable and face the consequences of his actions.  Now,
>I wrestle with the question of, "why?"  It's that same old question that
>God doesn't usually answer, but I'm puzzling over why God let Chris get
>away with this?  I'm feeling let down by Him!
>         Another issue that Greg and I are wrestling with is whether or not we
>should let Chris know that he is being monitered so closely by us.  We
>began monitering when Chris started sneaking out in the middle of the night
>and not telling us where he had been or where he was going  and refusing to
>give us the names of his friends.  He never seemed to have any money and
>this was odd since he was earning more than $100 a week.     He wouldn't
>talk to us so we started investigating on our own to try to get a handle on
>things.  We've managed to get a couple of people busted and we have been
>able to continue to be very aware of Chris's activities:  something we feel
>is justified since he is still under our roof and we are still completely
>responsible for him.  But, I'm interested in your opinions.  Would you
>tell?  Have we fallen into the trap of being deceitful just like Chris is,
>or are we doing the right thing?  You know, in a way, I think about how God
>knows everything  too, but He knows what He is doing.  He knows what is
>right.  I need to seek the counsel of others for in that there is wisdom.
>Kathy