Thanks Vinny,
It is just so heart breaking to watch all this.  I can't imagine how God
does it so much with all of us:  watch us use our free will to be stupid!
Kathy


At 02:53 PM 6/23/2005, you wrote:
>Hi Kathy,
>Well, I'm not a parent, and never have been, but frankly, I have to say that
>I would continue to monitor and not say a word.
>Kind of like what the Lord does with those he is trying to catch.  He
>watches, and watches, and gives people more rope than they need to hang
>themselves.  You know the Scripture in Peter where it says that God is not
>slack, as some men count slackness etc.
>There is another scripture somewhere which begins "with the pure, thou wilt
>show thyself pure. it ends that witht eh froward, God will show himself
>Froward etc.
>People only think they are getting away with stuff, but it will catch up
>with them, for sure.
>Keep diligent until he is 18, or till he gets in more trouble than he can
>wiggle out of.
> From a non-parent.
>Vinny
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> > Hi guys,
> >         Well, I told you that there would be twists and turns.  Chris
>passed the
> > drug test.  That really shocked us until we got home and monitered his
> > calls to his girlfriend and his druggy friend and learned that he cheated
> > and put water in the cup.  His girlfriends had told him to make sure that
> > it was warm, not cold.  Chris followed her advice and got another clean
> > report.  Now he thinks that he's in the clear until his court date July
> > 12th.  Last night, I overheard him trying to meet up with another dealer
>to
> > get some weed.  Chris is getting money because he is doing some odd jobs
> > for our neighbor, who doesn't have the greatest reputation either.  this
> > guy pays Chris in cash so we never see it.  chris doesn't tell us how much
> > he is getting, so we can't put a finger on how much he has so he can keep
> > trying to get weed, but pretend to be innocent with us.  It's crazy
>making.
> >         I have to admit that, for me, yesterday was a real cricess  moment
>in my
> > faith.  I believe that we did all the right things.  We tried to have
> > him  hold Chris accountable and face the consequences of his actions.
>Now,
> > I wrestle with the question of, "why?"  It's that same old question that
> > God doesn't usually answer, but I'm puzzling over why God let Chris get
> > away with this?  I'm feeling let down by Him!
> >         Another issue that Greg and I are wrestling with is whether or not
>we
> > should let Chris know that he is being monitered so closely by us.  We
> > began monitering when Chris started sneaking out in the middle of the
>night
> > and not telling us where he had been or where he was going  and refusing
>to
> > give us the names of his friends.  He never seemed to have any money and
> > this was odd since he was earning more than $100 a week.     He wouldn't
> > talk to us so we started investigating on our own to try to get a handle
>on
> > things.  We've managed to get a couple of people busted and we have been
> > able to continue to be very aware of Chris's activities:  something we
>feel
> > is justified since he is still under our roof and we are still completely
> > responsible for him.  But, I'm interested in your opinions.  Would you
> > tell?  Have we fallen into the trap of being deceitful just like Chris is,
> > or are we doing the right thing?  You know, in a way, I think about how
>God
> > knows everything  too, but He knows what He is doing.  He knows what is
> > right.  I need to seek the counsel of others for in that there is wisdom.
> > Kathy
> >