Hi Kathy,
Well, I'm not a parent, and never have been, but frankly, I have to say that
I would continue to monitor and not say a word.
Kind of like what the Lord does with those he is trying to catch.  He
watches, and watches, and gives people more rope than they need to hang
themselves.  You know the Scripture in Peter where it says that God is not
slack, as some men count slackness etc.
There is another scripture somewhere which begins "with the pure, thou wilt
show thyself pure. it ends that witht eh froward, God will show himself
Froward etc.
People only think they are getting away with stuff, but it will catch up
with them, for sure.
Keep diligent until he is 18, or till he gets in more trouble than he can
wiggle out of.
From a non-parent.
Vinny
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> Hi guys,
>         Well, I told you that there would be twists and turns.  Chris
passed the
> drug test.  That really shocked us until we got home and monitered his
> calls to his girlfriend and his druggy friend and learned that he cheated
> and put water in the cup.  His girlfriends had told him to make sure that
> it was warm, not cold.  Chris followed her advice and got another clean
> report.  Now he thinks that he's in the clear until his court date July
> 12th.  Last night, I overheard him trying to meet up with another dealer
to
> get some weed.  Chris is getting money because he is doing some odd jobs
> for our neighbor, who doesn't have the greatest reputation either.  this
> guy pays Chris in cash so we never see it.  chris doesn't tell us how much
> he is getting, so we can't put a finger on how much he has so he can keep
> trying to get weed, but pretend to be innocent with us.  It's crazy
making.
>         I have to admit that, for me, yesterday was a real cricess  moment
in my
> faith.  I believe that we did all the right things.  We tried to have
> him  hold Chris accountable and face the consequences of his actions.
Now,
> I wrestle with the question of, "why?"  It's that same old question that
> God doesn't usually answer, but I'm puzzling over why God let Chris get
> away with this?  I'm feeling let down by Him!
>         Another issue that Greg and I are wrestling with is whether or not
we
> should let Chris know that he is being monitered so closely by us.  We
> began monitering when Chris started sneaking out in the middle of the
night
> and not telling us where he had been or where he was going  and refusing
to
> give us the names of his friends.  He never seemed to have any money and
> this was odd since he was earning more than $100 a week.     He wouldn't
> talk to us so we started investigating on our own to try to get a handle
on
> things.  We've managed to get a couple of people busted and we have been
> able to continue to be very aware of Chris's activities:  something we
feel
> is justified since he is still under our roof and we are still completely
> responsible for him.  But, I'm interested in your opinions.  Would you
> tell?  Have we fallen into the trap of being deceitful just like Chris is,
> or are we doing the right thing?  You know, in a way, I think about how
God
> knows everything  too, but He knows what He is doing.  He knows what is
> right.  I need to seek the counsel of others for in that there is wisdom.
> Kathy
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