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> Yes jean-claude. Eating only the natural "healthy" carbs is the only
> sensible way but how many of our fellow humans will follow this path? I am
> diabetic
> and am on a all protein and fat diet ,no carbs, and my wife who is not
> diabetic agrees with our feelings but still eats raised sugar donuts,
> coffee cake,
> pies, ice cream, breads, pancakes etc. She says she could not live without
> "her" carbs. So what can you do when they acknowledge the truth and still
> go
> there merry way? JerrySteg
pour vinegar in their plate when they are not looking :-)
seriously ! guess what need of them they are trying to fulfill by eating
what they know is harmfull to them . ask them if your guesses are true for
them , when you will touch the true need you will know , give them the
empathy they need ( listening to their needs and feelings around it ) .
most often when somebody do something he knows very harmfull for themself ,
it is probably because they have an inner moralising voice that tell them
they SHOULD" eat better or not drink alcohol... and they interpret other
comments ( even when they come from a genuine concern for their well being )
as a SHOULD . by reaction to that and to satisfy this all important need of
theirs , need for AUTONOMY , they rebel against the inner punitive self.
if they feel heard about their need for autonomy they will stop rebelling
and will be more likelly open to satisfy their need for health.
let me know if and how it help and, what am i saying is fulfilling your
need for understanding.!
jean-claude
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