Rhonda, when I meditate upon what the Lord has done for me, how can I
not forgive others?  I'm not saying it is easy.  I think it helps a
lot to talk with the one who has done the hurting to try to
understand that person and to verbalize the forgiving of that person.

earlier, Rhonda, wrote:
>Recently a friend and I have been discussing forgiveness.  She was hurt by a
>former pastor, and still feels  angry towards him, I know we are to forgive
>those who hurt us, and it is not even necessary that they apologize, but...
>how does one work through those hurt feelings! when one feels ignored,
>betrayed, and  these feelings exist after several years, there must be more
>there somewhere!
>Is it always necessary to discuss a problem with the one who hurt us,  to
>resolve it?
>and what if we talk and say "I was hurt when  xyz happened" and they act as
>though it was a  trivial thing, and something that should have not concerned
>us!
>Rhonda

John