your right brad. its been helping me this part weekend
by asking god to show me what is behind that persons
action. god has been showing me the woundedness that
influences it. now, that doesnt take the hurt away but
it does help the sting and enables u to forgive and
have mercy and compassion. blessings cindy
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> Rhonda,
>
> We do not have to talk to the people who offended us
in order to forgive
> them. I speak of first hand experience on that one.
What is trivial to one
> person might be dramatically traumatic to another.
Everyone lives
> different lives with different experiences and it
can be the littlest
> thing to trigger offenses, painful  memories,
sorrow, hurt, anger, you
> name it. Personally I always find it helpful to put
their shoes on my
> feet. Then I  ask myself, "Why would they do this"?
After I look at it, I
> can usually find pity for them if nothing else, they
are lost and do not
> have Christ. If a fellow Christian, I realize they,
as I, are not perfect,
> and can too find some reason. For me I need to find
the reason they did
> what they did, or presume it anyway, and then it is
easier to forgive
> them. Also we can look inside us too, and ask "Why
does this bother me",
> just like cindy asked herself why the calls bothered
her so much. When we
> ask this, we can ask God to reveal what is going on,
and  the situation
> which made you hurt or angry, is only a covering of
another time in life
> when something similar happened. Generally looking
both outward and
> inward  helps. My nickel's worth.
>
> Brad
>
>
> on 04:36 PM 8/1/2005, Rhonda said:
> Recently a friend and I have been discussing
forgiveness.  She was hurt by
> a
> former pastor, and still feels  angry towards him, I
know we are to
> forgive
> those who hurt us, and it is not even necessary that
they apologize,
> but...
> how does one work through those hurt feelings! when
one feels ignored,
> betrayed, and  these feelings exist after several
years, there must be
> more
> there somewhere!
> Is it always necessary to discuss a problem with the
one who hurt us,  to
> resolve it?
> and what if we talk and say "I was hurt when  xyz
happened" and they act
> as
> though it was a  trivial thing, and something that
should have not
> concerned
> us!
> Rhonda


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