Thanks,  I just feel so drained when I come  home from the hospital, Mom
says that Dad is "trying to put me somewhere" I tried to explain that she
really needed help as she had almost died twice in the past two months!
she doesn't ever say she needs help, or even admits to having a problem.

They will not know for sure about my  grandmother's cancer until Tuesday,
but if it is positive, she would not be a candidate for chemotherapy or
surgery due to her poor health.  The doctor said she would be here for a
year maybe..
She has smoked all of her life, and I know that has contributed... but that
doesn't make it any easier,
she has always been the one source of unconditional love
It is a fact of life, that as we get older, so does everyone else, I just
hate to think of her having to go through all that cancer means for a whole
year.  I too am fairly certain she has it, she  has lost a lot of weight
over the past six months, she weighs around 80 pounds now, she is 75 years
old.

It is just such a hard situation, going to the hospital every day,
I  know one thing, that we are only responsible for our own actions, we can
not make, will, or convince others to behave in a certain way, we can
however, get the ones we love help especially when we see they are a danger
to themselves and that they have a problem that they can not solve all
alone!
They may not see our intervention as love, but it is love, love in its
truest form.

Rhonda