unfortunatly if your friend will not tell someone,
then she and the child will continue to be subjected
to the abuse. unless an outsider notices and does
something on behalf of the child, 

--- Rayna <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> The effects of verbal abuse can often manifest as
> shyness, low self 
> esteem, hyper-politeness etc as well as behaviour at
> the other end of 
> the spectrum.  As just one example - I *was* a child
> who was subjected 
> to ongoing verbal abuse, it wasn't picked up by
> outsiders (or if it was, 
> no one did anything), because my survival technique
> was to become 
> preternaturally good and well behaved.  Also, as I
> said, there is a 
> great deal of denial when it comes to abuse and DV,
> even if people can 
> tell that something is going on there is still
> stigma about getting 
> involved, lack of appropriate support for the
> victims, amongst other 
> reasons that little is done.  Also, as Kat said - if
> the woman herself 
> doesn't/can't acknowledge that she is being abused
> it is hard to do 
> anything.
> 
> Rayna
> 
> Anthony Arnold wrote:
> 
> >I'm not a parent myself, and neither do I have any
> nieces and nephews yet,
> >so my experiences with young kids are limited, but
> I would think if I was
> >communicating in a certain way, the child would
> likely pick up anything, and
> >is likely to use the same vocabulary in other
> environments.  This is just a
> >wild guess.  
> >
> >Thanks, 
> >Anthony 
> >Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
> >
> >-----Original Message-----
> >From: Cerebral Palsy List
> [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
> >Rayna
> >Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 10:43 PM
> >To: [log in to unmask]
> >Subject: Re: I need some more advice
> >
> >At the very least I imagine he would be trying to
> keep the verbal abuse 
> >hidden.  The little girl wouldn't necessarily tell
> anyone - if she's 
> >grown up in this environment she will likely not
> know that this isn't 
> >acceptable behaviour, plus people don't always
> listen (or believe) if 
> >kids (or adults) disclose abuse, especially if
> disability is involved.  
> >There is a lot of denial that goes on.
> >
> >Rayna
> >  
> >
> 


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