Hi Kat,
No thank you for your ideas. As a professor I get involved with my students, and when I had an autustic student - age 19, I did talk with mother - when she dropped him off one day. I wanted to do the best for him and I needed extra imput from an expert so to speak. If my adult students are having problems I am glad to help them - divorces, deaths, and catastrophic illness happen, and people need help even if just talking about it. This reflects in their grades, etc.
I am glad Alex's teachers wants her to see a specilaist - its her voice teacher. I just wanted her to know what the real problem is - she was thinking acid reflux - a fairly easy thing to control with meds, but a totally different problem.
I recently read an article about older teens needing foster parents because you don't just quit needing parents the day you turn 18. I think most parents out here realize that, but we walk a fine line. Alex knew I was going to talk to the teacher - but not necessailly what I was going to say.
Trisha
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From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
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Sent: Wednesday, April 06, 2005 8:52 AM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: Parental help needed
Alex may be bingeing and purging=2E Remember that eating disorders are
reactions to stress and Alex may be having problems handling uni=2E If th=
e
teacher went to the lengths of contacting you regarding Alex's problems,
she must be very concerned as I don't think uni teachers or professors
normally contact parents for things like that - uni students are normally
regarded as adults who are responsible for their own behavior and health=2E=
=20
As I said, Bobby probably will have better advice to give you but I'm thin=
k
you were right at least in investigating the matter, although I think you
might have talked to Alex before talking to the teacher=2E But then, Alex=
might have told you she wasn't having any problems when she really is=2E =
I
feel it's a judgement call every parents has to make in a situation like
this=2E
Sorry I'm not being much help=2E=20
Kat
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From: Trisha Cummings TrishaC@SMDI=2ECOM
Date: Wed, 06 Apr 2005 07:52:16 -0400
To: C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=2ESTJOHNS=2EEDU
Subject: Re: Parental help needed
Hi Kat,
This wasn't angle I had thought of - she is very much over weigh and has=
gained at least 20 pounds being away school=2E I will take her to a
gastroentrologist this summer - and I do see that she has counseling=2E As=
Amber said she makes herself throw becasue it makes her stomach quit
hurting when she is upset=2E Was I wrong to talk to the teacher tho - And
thanks for giving me something else to consider and check out=2E All possi=
ble
things need to be brought into play to help her=2E=20
Trisha
-----Original Message-----
From: St=2E John's University Cerebral Palsy List
[mailto:C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=2ESTJOHNS=2EEDU]On Behalf Of Kathy
Sent: Wednesday, April 06, 2005 8:16 AM
To: C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=2ESTJOHNS=2EEDU
Subject: Re: Parental help needed
Trisha, this may be a serious health problem - if Alex makes herself throw=
up
she may be bulimic and that requires medical attention=2E It's an eating
disorder and bulimics usually deny they're sick until they are seriously i=
ll
or if they get counselling=2E Bobby can give you better advice than I, bu=
t I
seriously think you need to get her to a doctor ASAP=2E
Kat
On Wednesday 06 April 2005 11:33 am, Trisha Cummings wrote:
> Greetings All,
>
> Could use some parental advice here=2E My custodial child has emotion=
al
> problems - and it gives her bad stomach pains - she then makes herself
> throw up=2E She is away at college and her voice teacher wants her to se=
e a
> doctor for acid reflux=2E I e-mailed the teacher that this is not proble=
m,
> and what the real problem is=2E My daughter Amber says I was wrong to do=
> this=2E She also the one who thought someone should tell the teacher=2E =
I
guess
> it wasn't suppose to be me=2E I appreciate the teacher wanting to help A=
lex
> but I don't want Alex treated for the wrong thing=2E So, was I correct o=
r
did
> I screw up as always=2E
>
> Trisha=
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