Oh Rhonda,
I feel for you!!  I know what you mean about the headaches and being tired
all the time.  Listen Girl, we're tired because we're swimming up stream,
against the current.  It's hard work.  I'm wondering if a social worker or
a social agency may be able to help you here.  Julie  would be able to give
more guidance here, but there might be some way that you can call Child
protective services and talk about the situation without giving the
specific information until you know that you've found someone who can
help.  Like  my situation with Chris, the situation with your mom and
sister needs to be broken up somehow, but if you can find some outside
helpp to do that for you, you may not end up being the target.  You could
also take someone from the  medical community into your confidence and,
perhaps they could get the ball rolling.  They've already admitted finding
stuff in her system so, perhaps they could act, or report to Child
Protective services and that could take you out of the loop
altogether.  Why is your dad so weak!  What is he getting out of having a
drug dependent wife?
Sorry if that sounded harsh, but I don't get it!
Anyway, God bless, Rhonda!  You've got a tough fight on your hands and
being concerned about Ben's health doesn't help either.  I'm praying for you!
God bless,
Kathy


At 11:43 AM 12/30/2004, you wrote:
>Mom is off the breathing machine, but she can't talk, her throat is sore.
>We, some of the family and I have been trying to tell my dad that Mom needs
>to go to a drug treatment program straight from the hospital.  My sister Amy
>who also has a drug problem doesn't think that is is a good idea,probably
>because she often got pills from my mother, she my sister that is, is really
>not  suppossed to be around her girls who my parents h ave custody of:
>but... she is always around.  It is all a big mess.
>Amy is like Chris out of control, and unlike Kathy, there hasn't been anyone
>to say "enough" loving another is hard, it's not all fuzzy feelings,
>sometimes it is saying "enough! this will stop, sinceYou will not stop on
>your own, or perhaps you can not stop, I will help you, force you to see
>that you need help"
>My sister is 34 and still acts as she did when she was 17, so it is good
>that you Kathy are trying to help your son now, I know it must be hard for
>you,
>praying for you, pray for us as well!
>I really hope dad gets Mom in to a rehab program, I'm really not up for this
>again!
>there is so much to worry about now, I just want some peace, some
>security...
>I just feel so tired all the time, I'm not sleeping well,
>
>Rhonda