Wanda, Scroll down for your answers [log in to unmask] wrote:
>Kathy Jo,
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>I am Wanda, Ryan's mom, in case you don't remember me. No, I don't remember you --sorry! Your post here has
>made me think. I hope you don't mind if I answer some of what you wrote. I
>have some ideas for you to think about, and some questions. I will cut and paste
>in some of your letter for coherency.
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>>I am a thirty -four year old born with Cerebral Palsy and because of this
>>I need help eating, going to the bathroom, brushing my teeth, taking a
>>bath (or a shower), washing my hair, shaving , cutting my nails,
>>dressing, brushing my hair, etc. Basically I need total care much like
>>an infant.
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>So does my son, and he may always. You know what? These are just "your
>needs." They are not you. I hope there is no one in your world who makes you
>feel that your needs define you. They do not.
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>>I left C-PALSY because I went to an Easter Seals Camp in June. I will be
>>leaving the list in a month again to go to Camp Courageous of Iowa.
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>Do you live in Iowa? Where exactly do you live?
>I live in Wisconsin, but, it is close to Iowa.
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>>Are JerkyMovements a characteristic of all cases of Cerebral Palsy?
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>You should ask your neurologist if your movements are part of another
>condition or if they are just the way you move.
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>>I am stillfighting with Independent Living. Last November, I agreed to
>>go to Cornerstone one day a week (just for Dayservice). That was a BIG
>>mistake . I said yes because My Mom wanted it and wanted a break and
>>Cornerstone was building on...well, about a month ago, when I wanted an
>>assessment for somewhere else, my caseworker said okay and stop going to
>>Cornerstone. My parents said (after my caseworker left) if you stop
>>going to Cornerstone , once a week, come the first of the next year, you
>>will be kicked out of the house and be at Cornerstone permanently and
>>lose your guardianship.
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>>
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>I understand your mother wanting a break. I do not understand your mother
>wanting you to go someplace that you do not like so she can have a break. I
>also do not understand you relying on a caseworker to set up an option for you.
>The caseworker will only set up situations that involve somewhat "dependent"
>options. huh?Here is what I would like for you to think about.
>Do you have a family friend or relative who could let you "hang out" with
>)them once a week? Now, by "hang out", you and I know that means they have to be
>trained (by you and your mother!) to help meet your needs. Is there someone
>in your church? no Do you have a circle of friends who are non-disabled, and who
>could spend time with you for a once-a-week overnighter? no Do you have siblings
>nearby? no Think outside the box. I'm sure you are a hoot to hang out with, so
>what if they have to kick in a bit to help you out with life!
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>I am upset with your parents for threatening you with placing you at
>Cornerstone permanently and taking over your guardianship. However, I can hear that
>they are really trying to say to you that it is very important for your mother
>to have a break once a week. I can also hear you saying that you really need
>to be "on your own", as much as you can be, for some time as well. So think
>about a way to make it happen. Maybe you and your parents could brainstorm
>together.
>
>I think it is a shame that they only offer personal care service in one area,
>and that there are not many options for you where you live. But remember
>that caseworkers are only going to offer you options based on what your
>government or insurance funds will pay for. You are not totally dependent on Medicaid
>and what Medicaid is willing to pay for (or whatever your funding source might
>be). Locate your own other options!
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>Don't let some beaurocrat dictate what you can choose from!
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>I like your letter to your caseworker, and you ask good questions. You are
>being very reasonable with them (her?). I hope she(?) answers your questions
>about how things are paid. Think about my suggestions, and please let me know
>how this goes. I would like to know if things really could go the way I hope
>for someone in the real world.
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>be well, kathyjopink
>wanda
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>Kathy Jo Pink
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