If they are conditions you can't live with - and they do sound pretty
bad indeed - you should have other choices. Having said that, I'm
afraid that most residental programs have problems such as those you
describe because the care facilities are normally woefully
understaffed. However even for that situation, you should feel
empowered to complain if you're treated in such a manner by another
resident or staff member. No one should need to put up with sexual
abuse.
I'd advise you to document each incidence so you have proof of such
things. Log them in your laptop, etc. with dates, names and places.
Kat
On Mon, 2004-09-13 at 13:55, Kathy Pink wrote:
> They propose I go to Cornerstone when they are in Branson. (Yes, it is
> Branson, MS that I'm talking about.) No one in my county gets as much money
> as I do. I know that is wrong because I know of other people that can have
> 24-Hour Care that are in my county, bit, they are all elderly.
>
>
>
> Some of the reasons that I don't like Cornerstone is because what the
> permanent clients say / do. This one particular client says "Doctors
> cripple people" and then without my or anybody's permission got in my power
> chair and took off. When I went to my bedroom for personal time (I had my
> own single bedroom.) I shut the door. This same client came in. The same
> client salted my food without asking or getting my permission . This same
> client has accused other people for taking her personnel belongings .Another
> client has asked me if I would go to bed because him and if I would love
> him. There is another client that said or did something, but, I don't
> remember what.
>
>
>
> This weekend, I wrote a letter to my case manager asking for a different
> respite place . it will probably be a nursing home or a home for the
> Mentally Retarded.
>
>
>
> Kathy Jo
>
> Kathy Jo Pink
> [log in to unmask]
> AOL IM ScreenName: kjptde
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> [mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of kat
> Sent: Sunday, September 12, 2004 1:59 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Your summer
>
>
> So what do they propose you do while they're in Branson? (I assume
> you're talking about Branson, MS). As for not being able to afford
> 24-hour care, I think the state has to help you get that if that is what
> they think you need.
>
> You've said you don't like Cornerstone. What exactly don't you like
> about Cornerstone? You know, no matter where you go or what you do,
> there will be rules to follow, things you'll have to do even though you
> don't like them. I live by myself, and I don't particularly like
> getting up early but I do it. If I don't, I don't get to work on time
> and I'd get fired.
>
> There are trade-offs in any path in life. It's just a matter of finding
> those you can live with. Now I'll get off my soapbox! :p
>
> Kat
>
> On Sun, 2004-09-12 at 14:05, Kathy Pink wrote:
>
> > It isn't only my parents that say I can't live alone. I have a history of
> > hurting myself and others. My county social worker says I need 24-Hour
> > Care. I met with The Independent Living Specialist , my social worker,
> and
> > my parents Thursday. My parents and my social worker were mad with me
> > because I contacted the Center Of Independent Living. No two CP Cases are
> > alike. I can't afford 24-Hour Care.
> >
> >
> >
> > My parents are going to Branson in October and they said I can't stay here
> > because it is their house. People that worked here have stolen, some
> people
> > have forgotten , not showed, or they were three hours late.
> >
> >
> > Kathy Jo
> > Kathy Jo Pink
> > [log in to unmask]
> > AOL IM ScreenName: kjptde
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> > [mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of Kathy
> > Sent: Monday, September 06, 2004 8:14 PM
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: Your summer
> >
> >
> > He's wrong. There's assistive technology to help you with such things,
> and
> > if
> > not that, aides can help you. What will you do when your parents die?
> You
> > need to start planning ahead and getting ready to be on your own.
> >
> > Kat
> >
> > On Monday 06 September 2004 8:34 pm, Kathy Pink wrote:
> > > My dad said in order to live independently you have to be able to talk,
> > > walk, or feed yourself and I can't do any.
> > >
> > > Kathy Jo Pink
> > > [log in to unmask]
> > > AOL IM ScreenName: kjptde
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> > > [mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of Tamar Raine
> > > Sent: Sunday, September 05, 2004 9:51 PM
> > > To: [log in to unmask]
> > > Subject: Re: Your summer
> > >
> > >
> > > I can get in and out of my wheelchair, and I can feed myself, though I
> > need
> > > somebody to cut my food. and I talk ok, not great, but i can
> communicate.
> > > But regardless, each of us is different, and please don't compare
> yourself
> > > to anybody.
> > >
> > > Tamar Mag Raine
> > > [log in to unmask]
> > >
> > > The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one
> > > persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.
> > > Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.
> > > -George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950
> > >
> > > IM: tamarmag48
> > > Oakland Mayor's Commission on People with disabilities
> > >
> > > > [Original Message]
> > > > From: Kathy Pink <[log in to unmask]>
> > > > To: <[log in to unmask]>
> > > > Date: 9/5/2004 12:29:23 PM
> > > > Subject: Re: Your summer
> > > >
> > > > Mag,
> > > >
> > > > Can you walk, talk, or feed yourself ? Kathy Jo
> > > >
> > > > Kathy Jo Pink
> > > > [log in to unmask]
> > > > AOL IM ScreenName: kjptde
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > -----Original Message-----
> > > > From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> > > > [mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of Tamar Raine
> > > > Sent: Friday, September 03, 2004 5:15 PM
> > > > To: [log in to unmask]
> > > > Subject: Re: Your summer
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Kathy Jo,
> > > > You know I have an average of 5 hours of assistance a day. Others need
> > >
> > > more
> > >
> > > > assistance and yet they have their own apartments. So, you can do it,
> > > > even if they say 24 hour care is too expensive, it is your right to
> live
> > > > where you want to live. The law is called Olmstead, and I know that
> > > > States are having trouble helping everybody that needs it, but I urge
> > you
> > > > not to give up. it may take a year. but don't give up. in the
> meantime
> > > > there are things you can do, like have somebody teach you about money.
> > > >
> > > > Mag
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