Well, Kathy Jo,

I'd not turn that down just yet if I were you.  If you can go in and out
through a separate entrance, and they set things up for you so it's all
accessible, and it's got a little kitchenette, etc. down there, I'd try it
for at least a while.  It'd give you a taste of living independently and your
parents can see how well you cope.  Assuming you'd pay rent and your share of
the utilities and for your food, I'd say it's a great opportunity to learn
how to manage your money whilst living at home.  Social Services could
provide you with assistance and you could be independent of your family.

You'd need to set down ground rules about privacy and enforce them,  which
might be rather difficult.  But it's an idea that's worth exploring, IMHO.
It would prepare you for life in the real world.

When I lived with my folks when I was in school, I worked several part time
jobs and paid my way.  I paid rent to my folks, paid for my car and my
expenses.  It was the only way we could do it because by that time my dad had
retirned and couldn't afford to pay my  expenses, etc., and it wasn't fair to
them that I use the space and resources without paying them.

After leaving school, I moved out and got my own flat.  However a couple of
years later, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and my mother was overwhelmed
so I moved back home.  It was not long after his death when she was diagnosed
with her final illness and I stayed with her until she died five years later
(along with my youngest sister).

Kat

On Sunday 05 September 2004 6:26 pm, Kathy Pink wrote:
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
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> Sent: Friday, September 03, 2004 4:51 PM
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> Subject: Wisconsin Coalition for Advocacy(was Re: Your summer)
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> On Friday 03 September 2004 2:40 pm, Tamar Raine wrote:
> > Kathy Jo, I gave you a very good resource. The Wisconsin protection &
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> > The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one
> > persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.
> > Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.
> > -George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950
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> > Oakland Mayor's Commission on People with disabilities
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> > > From: Kat <[log in to unmask]>
> > > To: <[log in to unmask]>
> > > Date: 9/3/2004 11:29:39 AM
> > > Subject: Re: Your summer
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> > > Why do you say that, Kathy Jo?  You shouldn't give up.  True
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> > > From: Kathy Pink <[log in to unmask]>
> > > Sent: Sep 3, 2004 1:59 PM
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> > > Thanks Gary--I feel I am going to lose this battle.  KJ