True enough!  I really feel good!  I know what is important after all!  we
will be fine! whatever happens! for this moment, I have today, we are well,
I love my husband, and am happy we are together, joy is being glad where you
are!
Rhonda
----- Original Message -----
From: "BD" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Sunday, October 03, 2004 8:12 AM
Subject: Re: bad response!


> Well then Ben did the best he could in the situation. No matter what
> happens, you are right, God will see you through, but I'd not concern
> yourself with the what ifs.
>
> Brad
>
>
> Rhonda wrote:
> >Ben did call in about twice a week, but got the message system, after
> >leaving messages and numbers where he could be reached, we would wait for
a
> >return call which we never received, until  two weeks before he returned!
> >this call was just to say that the lack of cunnication was not
appreciated,
> >mostly a gripe call! never mind, that as far as I now communication is a
two
> >waychannel!
> >I can understand how difficult it must be, hiring a new person thinking
he
> >will fill a needed spot in your office only to have him take ill after
only
> >a month! I guess I had hoped for a more positive response, after makingan
> >attempt to explain the situation, which was not heard, Ben feels
uncertain
> >about his future there!
> >this may only be a temporary thing, only time will tell! but it is
> >impossible to "communicate" if others will not listen, or allow
conversation
> >to be a two way thing.
> >Praying for God to show Ben what to do, how to best respond, I guess
there
> >are  hurt or maybe even angry feelings on both sides!
> >It is my tendency to worry! to think "what if this job doesn't work and
we
> >have to move again? well even if that happens, we will be ok, I tell
myself,
> >and there is really no positive result that can come from worrying!so
that
> >is what is ahppening!
> >
> >Rhonda
> >----- Original Message -----
> >From: "BD" <[log in to unmask]>
> >To: <[log in to unmask]>
> >Sent: Saturday, October 02, 2004 11:58 AM
> >Subject: Re: bad response!
> >
> >
> > > Rhonda,
> > >
> > > Sorry to hear of the  ill feelings between Ben's boss and him. You
know,
> > > sometimes people have a hard time putting themselves in other's shoes,
in
> > > this case literally with respect to the steel toed shoes. Regarding
the
> > > over all situation I'd assume the same. Justly so, and I'm not
suggesting
> > > he is but a thought provoker, is that Ben perhaps might consider not
> > > returning the same mentality or perspective as his boss, that being of
> > > looking at the situation only from his own shoes, but rather
considering
> > > those of his boss. Even if his bosses shoes were not correct,
considering
> > > where he is coming from, and the source of those responses Ben
received
> >can
> > > help a great deal in understanding and forgiving, and getting past the
> > > event without letting it be a thorn to nag the future. I could imagine
a
> > > boss, having a new man on the team, having that man take ill after a
short
> > > time being at the company, being a bit apprehensive of where that
person
> > > sat as far as team player, work ethics and etc. Over the years of
hiring
> > > many employees, I've found it generally takes anywhere from 3 to 6
weeks
> > > for true colors to show in an employee. A period of time before they
feel
> > > they do not have to put up the "good guy" front and settle in to their
> >real
> > > personality. We all do this, even when we were dating, we wanted to
> >impress
> > > the other so we were on our best behavior and then settle down to a
> > > comfortable position. Anyway, I wonder if this boss was wanting  to
see
> >Ben
> > > call in to keep tabs on how the company was doing, how things were, if
> > > there was any input he could give from home which didn't require him
to be
> > > there. Whether or not Ben actually could for his consideration is not
> > > pertinent and whether or not his boss should have instructed and not
> > > assumed he'd call in, is also not pertinent to how each feel in
> >themselves.
> > > Perhaps a sit down and say, "Hey, I didn't know you wanted me to call
in,
> > > and I was a bit preoccupied with my health. Sorry about that, I really
> > > enjoy working here and do have interest in the company.". And perhaps
the
> > > boss would return in kind saying "Well, I understand, I wished you'd
have
> > > called in and let us know how you were doing, and I should have let
you
> > > know that  is what I was expecting too." Perhaps that is fantasy
drama,
> >but
> > > wouldn't that be a nice outcome?
> > >
> > > Brad
> > >
>
> Brad
>
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