Does your attendant work for a company or on her own?  If she works for a
company, she needs to report him to her boss.  Or she needs to inform the
case manager of whoever is paying her.  Her family needs to go visit her
often, to check on how she is doing.  Your friend needs to understand that
her daughter isn't going to be taken away from her unless she stays in an
abusive relationship.  Give her that out, and then also support.  
The attendant also needs to talk to your friend and let her know what is
going on.
Very sad situation.

Beth t. the OT 

-----Original Message-----
From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
Anthony Arnold
Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 7:51 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: I need some more advice

Friends, 

 

I'm sure you remember my posting a couple of weeks ago concerning my friend
with cerebral palsy whose husband is verbally abusive and doesn't help her
with anything.  I'm not sure if you know that I also have the same attendant
as this gal, and this morning the attendant was at this couple's house
before coming to mine, and the attendant was told to leave or the husband is
getting a restraining order against her.  I know that I'm a very intelligent
guy, who shouldn't be asking this because I feel it's basic common sense,,
but does he have any grounds to do this action?  I have personally had this
attendant for almost 5 years, and haven't had any problems which might lead
to this action.  Sure when the daughter is home from school, the attendant
talks to her, but I don't see any problems with that especially when my
friend is right there.  

 

Thanks, 

Anthony 

Visit my website at  <http://www.anthonyarnold.net> www.anthonyarnold.net