Well, unless your friend is legally of diminished mental capacity or  
is ruled incapable of managing her own affairs by the courts, she has  
every right to manage her own money, her own assets, and her own life.

But this is the crucial question here - has she indicated in any way  
that she wants to leave the situation or feels she is being abused?   
You can talk until you're blue in the face but the abuse victim has  
to make the decision to leave, not her family or friends.

Just my personal observation after years of talking to friends in  
similar situations.

Kat


On 22 Mar 2006, at 23:34, Anthony Arnold wrote:

> My friend's parents currently spend their winters in Arizona, and  
> come back
> here April - September (I think).  Both of her sisters live here in  
> town
> with their families, and I know that one is a nurse at the  
> hospital.  She
> also has a brother who lives in a nearby town.  They know about the
> situation but I think they're not sure of what to do.
>
> Thanks,
> Anthony
> Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On  
> Behalf Of
> Kathleen Salkin
> Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 9:06 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: I need some more advice
>
> Anthony,
>
> I know it's frustrating to stand by and watch your friend go through
> this -- does she have any family who could act on her behalf if she
> can't speak up for herself?
>
> Kat
>
> On 22 Mar 2006, at 19:51, Anthony Arnold wrote:
>
>> Friends,
>>
>>
>>
>> I'm sure you remember my posting a couple of weeks ago concerning
>> my friend
>> with cerebral palsy whose husband is verbally abusive and doesn't
>> help her
>> with anything.  I'm not sure if you know that I also have the same
>> attendant
>> as this gal, and this morning the attendant was at this couple's  
>> house
>> before coming to mine, and the attendant was told to leave or the
>> husband is
>> getting a restraining order against her.  I know that I'm a very
>> intelligent
>> guy, who shouldn't be asking this because I feel it's basic common
>> sense,,
>> but does he have any grounds to do this action?  I have personally
>> had this
>> attendant for almost 5 years, and haven't had any problems which
>> might lead
>> to this action.  Sure when the daughter is home from school, the
>> attendant
>> talks to her, but I don't see any problems with that especially
>> when my
>> friend is right there.
>>
>>
>>
>> Thanks,
>>
>> Anthony