Well, this tape I was listening too was actually his talking about the
family constitution but while he was listing that stuff, he was also reading
questions people had written down at this conference and submitted.  That's
where all of the negativity is coming in from.  He's telling stories
in-between of things his kids did, or people they counseled had brought to
them but the 10 commandments are things that are not supposed to be broken
and you are supposed to list consequences for each, if broken so that the
kid has a guide.
He says that it upsets kids when they get in trouble over something and it's
something you never told them not to do.
Kids need boundaries to feel secure and unlike the belief that so many
subscribe to these days, they are not inherently good.
They have a sin nature just like all of the rest of us and they need
guidance from there parents.

Matt