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Date: | Fri, 21 Nov 2003 07:52:24 -0600 |
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Hahahah paul, here's some notes from the marital cd on taking responsibility
for our emotional issues. I'll take out any words, such as wife, husband or
spouse and replace them with your fellow trafic companion? hahahahhahaha
the 3 signs of blame transfer
1 defensiveness
It's not my problem, it's your problem and you need to fix it.
2 criticism
You focus on your fellow trafic companions problems until you blow them out
of perportion and
soon it's all you can see you over react and you see no escaping
3 hopelessness
I'm a victim,
I need to get out,
and there's nothing I can do.
Four emotional facts of life
1 No exturnal person or event in life controls my level of emotional
health, my response to them does.
Thing to remember,
Life does not form me, my response to it does.
lesson, Forgive those who wrong you and don't hold grudges destroies us.
2 We marry, ur, um, drive according to our level of emotional health.
Health marries/drives with health and unhealth marries/drives with unhealth.
3 The only way you can change another person is to change yourself.
Lesson, if you browbeat your fellow trafic companion they resent it.
4 emotionally healthy people can do the right thing if nobody else does but
emotionally unhealthy people are victims and followers and they don't do the
right thing unless everyone else does.
Matt
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