Rhonda,
Sorry to hear of the ill feelings between Ben's boss and him. You know,
sometimes people have a hard time putting themselves in other's shoes, in
this case literally with respect to the steel toed shoes. Regarding the
over all situation I'd assume the same. Justly so, and I'm not suggesting
he is but a thought provoker, is that Ben perhaps might consider not
returning the same mentality or perspective as his boss, that being of
looking at the situation only from his own shoes, but rather considering
those of his boss. Even if his bosses shoes were not correct, considering
where he is coming from, and the source of those responses Ben received can
help a great deal in understanding and forgiving, and getting past the
event without letting it be a thorn to nag the future. I could imagine a
boss, having a new man on the team, having that man take ill after a short
time being at the company, being a bit apprehensive of where that person
sat as far as team player, work ethics and etc. Over the years of hiring
many employees, I've found it generally takes anywhere from 3 to 6 weeks
for true colors to show in an employee. A period of time before they feel
they do not have to put up the "good guy" front and settle in to their real
personality. We all do this, even when we were dating, we wanted to impress
the other so we were on our best behavior and then settle down to a
comfortable position. Anyway, I wonder if this boss was wanting to see Ben
call in to keep tabs on how the company was doing, how things were, if
there was any input he could give from home which didn't require him to be
there. Whether or not Ben actually could for his consideration is not
pertinent and whether or not his boss should have instructed and not
assumed he'd call in, is also not pertinent to how each feel in themselves.
Perhaps a sit down and say, "Hey, I didn't know you wanted me to call in,
and I was a bit preoccupied with my health. Sorry about that, I really
enjoy working here and do have interest in the company.". And perhaps the
boss would return in kind saying "Well, I understand, I wished you'd have
called in and let us know how you were doing, and I should have let you
know that is what I was expecting too." Perhaps that is fantasy drama, but
wouldn't that be a nice outcome?
Brad
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