Phil,

I'm Praying for you and Sandy in this situation.

Love and Blessings,
Pat Ferguson



At 12:20 PM 4/2/04, you wrote:
>Sandy and I would appreciate your prayers.  We have somehow gotten into the
>middle of a family conflict.  Nothing new there, of course, but this one
>will have, and already has had, a lot of emotional ramifications.  In some
>respects, we are being held responsible for something we have no control
>over.  In short, over the last 7 years or so, we have become a baby sitting
>service, without pay I might add, and it has escalated into baby sitting
>three children, ages 4 and 4 and 8 and now there is a strong possibility
>within a month or so, we will be responsible for a 6 month old baby.  It has
>pushed us beyond reasonable limits plus it has done nothing for us
>financially except put a greater financial responsibility upon us and we
>have enough to worry about without that problem, too.  Twice in the last two
>weeks we have tried to talk to our son and his wife about this situation but
>the understanding just doesn't seem to be there.  Things are, of course,
>taken personally rather than rationally and with maturity and how we feel is
>simply ignored.  Well, that's the way it seems to us, so trying to work
>things out is almost impossible.  There are so many variables in this
>situation, you would quickly grow bored hearing about them all them so I
>won't even try to detail the whole situation.  Regardless, the whole thing
>is putting an inordinate amount of stress on Sandy and I which, by all
>rights, should not be there.  It is funny how grandparents become a free
>baby sitting service.  If you say no, the kids are the losers and suffer the
>most.  If you say yes, we become the villain of the story and we are labeled
>too sensitive.  If I only had a dime for every time I was labeled to be too
>sensitive in the 40 years I have been blind, I would be richer than Bill
>Gates.  Your prayers would be appreciated.
>
>Phil.