Thanks, Matt.  I agree with you.  Because if the other person does not do
it early on, then it may reach the point where there will be no escape, due
to circumstances beyond her control.  I have known a case where every event
that could bring even the slightest hope of recovery and change, always
disappointed her and threw her at times down deeper into despair.  This
went on year after year, believing she was walking in the will of God in
the matter, with hope in Him that it would change.
Finally, all hope is gone from her heart. but also finally the peace that
passes understanding has replaced that fruitless hope, peace that is far
better than hope.

Helen

At 11:07 AM 1/18/04 -0600, you wrote:
I know this wasn't asked of me Helen, but another couple we are watching go
through a tough time just now is my brother who is boozing again and his
girlfriend who is sticking with him.
My anger says that she should get out now and find someone more deserving of
her love but I haven't voiced it to her yet.
We don't talk to the brother right now but I hear he has checked himself
into treatment again.
Just for a week though.
I think, if over time someone hasn't truly addressed their problem with
drugs and alcohol that the other person should get out of the relationship
for their own health's sake.

Matt