Another challenge is to not apologize or be ashamed of your feelings, even
if the other person doesn't like you feeling that way or rejects you
because of how you feel.  That doesn't mean we shouldn't examine the
beliefs and thoughts that lead us to feel that way;  it just means we need
to accept ourselves as we are, because we know God accepts us that way.

Peggy

At 08:04 PM 1/15/2004 -0500, you wrote:
>, John wrote:
> >Rhonda, good wisdom.  It takes strength to tell your feelings to others.
>
>Helen responds:
>And then there are times and circumstances when words need to be spoken
>which are based neither on hurt feelings nor on anger, but on the
>realization that love demands it.
>
>
>
>
> >At 06:00 PM 1/15/04 -0500, Rhonda Partain wrote:
> > >I was just thinking, can't really do to much else, it's to
> cold.  Anyway, I
> > >was thinking about relationships, between friends, between marriage
> > >partners, between family members, and between church members.  One
> thing all
> > >these relationships have in common is that sometimes people are hurt.  I
> > >don't know about the rest of you, but I tend to run away from my hurt
> > >feelings.  I don't like feeling angry,, or hurt.  I am afraid of saying
> > >something that will make things worse, and so I make things worse by
> saying
> > >nothing at all.  I just think about the hurt, and the other person may be
> > >unaware it is there.  Recently, I have begun to express to others how I
> > >feel.  God has given us a wonderful gift of words, a gift that has such
> > >power.  Godused words to create a whole universe from nothing, He took
> away
> > >the darkness bysaying "light be", and we too have power, with our words we
> > >can angrily tell another just what we think, an outburst of angry
> words may
> > >make us feel better, but it doesn't resolve anything.  I think that if we
> > >are to learn to "love one another", we have to learn how to talk, or
> asthey
> > >say in my classes at college, communicate our feelings, and needs to
> > >tothers.
> > >I think that sometimes God puts us in situations where we are  pushed
> so to
> > >speak, we then have to decide whether to try and speak"the truth in
> love" or
> > >say nothing and remain hurt.  I think all of us need to learn how to get
> > >along with others, how to disagree with out being disagreeable, and how to
> > >love someone who doesn't think just exactly as we do.
> > >It is a scary thing to try and tell someone else we feel hurt, or are
> angry,
> > >but how can they know if we do not say.  Hurt feelings and angry feelings
> > >only turn to bitterness and unforgiveness if kept locked away.
> > >I was just thinking... and praying that Icould continue to learn how to
> > >truly "love others"
> > >Rhonda
> >
> >John
> >
> >    How do you call a fly without wings ? A walk !

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