Hey Phil, I will pray I never thought of this but I guess it would be harder
for parents to say no then for children to say no to there parents.  thank
you for letting me see the other side.

Praying


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----- Original Message -----
From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Friday, April 02, 2004 11:20 AM
Subject: Family Conflict


> Sandy and I would appreciate your prayers.  We have somehow gotten into
the
> middle of a family conflict.  Nothing new there, of course, but this one
> will have, and already has had, a lot of emotional ramifications.  In some
> respects, we are being held responsible for something we have no control
> over.  In short, over the last 7 years or so, we have become a baby
sitting
> service, without pay I might add, and it has escalated into baby sitting
> three children, ages 4 and 4 and 8 and now there is a strong possibility
> within a month or so, we will be responsible for a 6 month old baby.  It
has
> pushed us beyond reasonable limits plus it has done nothing for us
> financially except put a greater financial responsibility upon us and we
> have enough to worry about without that problem, too.  Twice in the last
two
> weeks we have tried to talk to our son and his wife about this situation
but
> the understanding just doesn't seem to be there.  Things are, of course,
> taken personally rather than rationally and with maturity and how we feel
is
> simply ignored.  Well, that's the way it seems to us, so trying to work
> things out is almost impossible.  There are so many variables in this
> situation, you would quickly grow bored hearing about them all them so I
> won't even try to detail the whole situation.  Regardless, the whole thing
> is putting an inordinate amount of stress on Sandy and I which, by all
> rights, should not be there.  It is funny how grandparents become a free
> baby sitting service.  If you say no, the kids are the losers and suffer
the
> most.  If you say yes, we become the villain of the story and we are
labeled
> too sensitive.  If I only had a dime for every time I was labeled to be
too
> sensitive in the 40 years I have been blind, I would be richer than Bill
> Gates.  Your prayers would be appreciated.
>
> Phil.
>