Matt,

I know the feeling.  I watched my older sister go through a divorce.  Her
husband was my best friend when I was growing up and I still love him very
much.  Fortunately, their children were grown.  I say fortunately, that is a
poor choice of words.  The two children, although grown and married, one
having two children of his own and serving as an overseas missionary, have
suffered more than I ever dreamed.  We often think it is the little ones who
suffer but the adult children suffer, too, and sometimes even more.  My two
grandsons, ages 8 and four, are watching my daughter and her husband
divorce.  The get sick to their stomach for no reason and the minute their
mom, or dad, shows up, their stomach is fine.  The older one has a rash.  We
took him to the doctor and they can find no reason for it.  It is nothing
but the wages of sin in these two cases.  Actually, my sister was at fault.
To be perfectly truthful, she didn't like sex.  Of course, her husband did.
He tried from the first year they were married to get her to go to a
counselor with him and she would not do it.  He began having affairs and
finally, after 28 years, he left her.  He was a pastor and later an Army
chaplain for 20 years, as all this was going on.  Super sad.

Phil.