Kathy, I couldn't have said it better myself. I feel that, sorry to any
young folk on here, that young people today are not nearly as mature as they
were years ago. For example, I know a 23-year old lady who kept her 3 year
old daughter, but gave away her infant son. She's a single mom, who lived at
home, used drugs and alcohol, the grand parents babied her by looking after
the children while she partied. Well, after a month, the mother ripped the
son out of that stable home and now the children are going to have serious
problems. this mother goes with man after man. She moves out then back home,
lives with various men and works so much that the children don't know her
well. Sorry Phil but I agree with Doctor Laura this time too. However, if
this girl is mature and has assistance, I don't see why she couldn't keep
her child but have help as long as she's responsible and doesn't use her
helpers as an exucse to be iresponsible. Kerri.
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, November 08, 2003 9:49 AM
Subject: Re: Doctor Laura and partial birth ban


> Brad,
> I've listened to Doctor Laura enough to guess that she told the mother to
> go bback to college and give up the child because that would be in the
> best interest of both of them. The child would get a solit, loving, two
> parent home and the mother would get a fresh start so that, hopefully,
> some day, she can get things in the right order and be a healthy, mature
> mother for the children that she will have in the future. Sorry, but I
> agree with this one. Just because this mother made an impulsive mistake
> doesn't mean that she should be supported to keep the child and drag them
> both down when a better solution is available. Obviously, this mother
> must have thought well of her aunt and uncle and their ability to create
> a loving home for her child or they wouldn't have been considered in the
> first place. This mother, though 21, is still a child herself. Come on,
> do you still think the way you did when you were 21? Thank God I don't.
> IN western culture, most people aren't really mature until the late
> twenties no matter what artificial age the government wants to rubber
> stamp on it. Both the mother and the child have the best opportunity for
> success as things are!
> Another fact that hasn't been brought up is that this girl was post
> pardom. I think that Phil said that she had only had the baby eight days
> ago. Let me tell you, they don't call it baby blues for nothing. With two
> of my kids, I cried at everything! I was horribly emotional and
> unreasonable and I could have never predicted that ahead of time. With
> two of my kids I was great, but with the other two, the ones in which
> drugs during labor were involved, I was a literal basket case. I think
> that Greg deserves a gold star just for keeping me. There is no way that
> I could have been trusted to make a reasonable decision. I didn't know
> that I could be that off balance. This woman could be speaking out of
> that, not to mention that she is grieving. She is facing a loss, and it's
> a real one. Sorry, I think that things are best left as is.
> IN Him,
> Kathy
>
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