Amen, Julie.  And the nasty thing that I continually see is that the single
mother tries to ease her own loneliness by finding a loser of a so-called
man who comes in and does even more harm.  Even if he's not abusive, if the
relationship goes sour (as it will 90% of the time), the children are left
more confused than ever.  Mommy gets lonely or sexually frustrated and,
predictably, in waves another man after another man comes and goes, leaving
more emotional and perhaps physical scars each time on the children.  What I
really hate, despise and loathe is when the woman tells her children or
allows her children to call this man "Daddy."  Daddy after daddy comes and
goes out the door, no wonder children these days are such a mess.  And it's
all because men are too selfish to stay and women, ignoring the harm they
are doing to their children, seek to medicate their loneliness with sex
(which is the best way to draw a loser male) and think it's all about
meeting their own needs instead of those of the children.

Paul
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From: "Julie M." <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Friday, November 07, 2003 8:13 PM
Subject: Re: Doctor Laura and partial birth ban


> Kathy, I stand squarely with you on this one.  Sure there are child abuse
> and neglect in two-parent families because no family is perfect.  However,
> these problems are far more prevalent in single parent households because
> the parent is overwhelmed with having to be both mother and father to the
> children.  No matter how much a parent loves his/her child, they aren't
> superman.
>
> Society's view on sex is like it's view on so many other things:  Give me
> my rights but let me duck the responsibilities, only when the girl gets
> pregnant, that's not so easy.
>
> Julie Melton
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