Ted
I don't know if it is a Southern thing, but it is almost impossible  
to get plain old steamed veggies that are dairy free.   I can't tell  
you how often I have had to send them back because the chef couldn't  
bear to send them to me with no flavor and he's added margarine or  
butter to the veggies.

that's no help to you for adding things to your list, but I thought  
if you are going to put up a list of dairy free restaurant foods then  
it might help to put this warning there as well.

In my experience it is fairy easy to get dairy free foods in  
restaurants, its the gluten free, dairy free combo that makes it  
difficult.

Shez in Norfolk