putting a baby in the mix almost never fixes a
problem, but, rather makes more problems including
problems for that baby.

--- Anthony Arnold <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> I know I'm getting in the middle of this discussion,
> but I agree with
> Bobby about getting into a relationship is a waste
> if you only want to
> do it to fix somebody or something.  I know a woman
> with CP who I
> actually looked up to as a role model since she's 10
> years older than
> me, she had almost everything going for her and with
> the ability to
> better herself by however she would have liked to.
> One of her problems
> was her Mom and other family members liked to
> control her every move,
> and she wanted to escape that somehow.  So she
> decided the best way was
> to get pregnant with a guy's child and eventually
> they decided to get
> married for the child's interests.  Today, I feel
> nobody in that
> household is very happy, which is depressing to
> watch especially when
> there's a child involved.
>
> Thanks,
> Anthony
>
> Visit me at http://www.anthonyarnold.net/
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
> Cleveland, Kyle E.
> Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2003 8:58 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: I think I really like him.. but he
> doesn't love himself...
>
> ...a lesson, Bobby, that many of us take years to
> learn.  Wish I'd known
> that before my first marriage, lo these many years
> ago.
>
> Kyle
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: BG Greer, PhD [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Saturday, September 06, 2003 3:23 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: I think I really like him.. but he
> doesn't love himself...
>
>
>        ... "If you engage in a relationship in order
> to "fix" someone,
> you are wasting you time". Be happy with how they
> are, not what you
> think
> they could be.
>
> Bobby


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