<<unless you can get recommendations for a male psychoanalyst, from
people verifying that he follows strict rules and does not indulge in the
manipulation of the transference for purposes of his own>> --Cynthia McDonald

Of course I researched the therapists I've had, but I did not have access to
their clients to discuss just how professional these psychotherapists were.

     <<Why don't you "test-drive" a few therapists?>> --Thereasa

I would but its really expensive, and everyone seems really good in the
begining,, the "honeymoon period" :)

     <<Try to recall a positive interaction with a male or a female and then
see a therapist male or female in correspondance.>> -- Josef

Im not sure what u mean?

    <<you are likely much better off with a good well-adapted friend and/or a
good self help guide (manual)>> -- Brad Jesness

Im starting to realize it :)

Thanku everyone for taking time to respond to my question, Diana