Laura and I have discussed the same, Ken. I'm with you. I have enough
support from family and friends that I think I could do ok alone. Lets face
it, nobody could ever replace "Mom", and who's gonna want a beat-up old
cripple like me anyway (LOL). Our hope is that we can see both the little
ones through college. Adrienne says that she would like to be made guardian
of her little brother and sister should anything happen to us. She's a
smart kid with a heart of gold, but I would hate to think of her having to
take care of her siblings while she was just starting out in the world.
Isn't it amazing when you get to our age these things become something you
really have to consider?
-----Original Message-----
From: Barber, Kenneth L. [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 1:07 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: current events
if something happerned to judy, i'd stay single now. i love her dearly and
would not ever want another.
-----Original Message-----
From: Trisha Cummings [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 11:43 AM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: current events
Hi Ken,
Glad you have a great Mom for him. I haven't remarried. I have no plans
to.
Trisha
> i would guess that all the states have a formula. i know alabama has an
> amount and it is figured on the % of total income of both pasrents what is
> actually paid. the one that makes more pays more of the expense. although
> nenjamin stayed with me, i got nothing from his mom even though i could
> have. i am happy to have raised my child. he don't even remember her.
> judy
> is mom.
>
>
> I wasn't commenting on that - the child support portion was what I was
> commenting on - and the states involvement in the amount - depending on
> the
> amount of the child support and the years he paid it and the amount of
> college donation - he could be paying the same amount both ways. Would he
> have paid more or less if it was voluntary? The state the amount - don't
> know how - Virginia has 600 limit and that is divided between the two
> incomes - by the percentage you put in. He will have paid - $36,000 in
> child support ( over 12 years) and he has no intention of helping with
> college or helping buy a car. In the mean time - I have put out - $65,000,
> and that doesn't count - the cost of her medical care - like insurance -
> which I carry and the co-pays and left over balances, nor the up and
> coming
> college amount of ?????? - nor the $15,000 for new car. I truly don't
> begudge him his money - okay so he has new Honda motorcycle and a new car
> and new digital camera nad computer and other stuff - I do begudge him the
> extra time I am away from Amber - so we can live. He spends no time with
> Amber, never calls her and until recently spazed out with the child
> support
> - the kid had no money and lost mom time. The kids want me home. When
> Jackie
> was living there - she waitress part-time and gave me money so I could
> stay
> home with them. The kids need us and our presence, and child support can
> help with that. We only have kids for such a short time, shouldn't at
> least
> be with them then?
>
> Trisha
>
>
> > i think kyle has already said he intends to continue with money for
> > college
> > voluntarily.
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Trisha Cummings [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:53 AM
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: current events
> >
> >
> > I don't see what the difference is - one should voluntarily pay for one
> > kids
> > - you do for the ones that live with - infact if you consider how much
> the
> > cost per month - child support usually looks piddly next it - I get $250
> a
> > month Amber, and put out at least $700. I get nothing for Alex and put
> out
> > the same amount. I arrive at this by dividing the house, utilities and
> > food
> > by three - then adding individual costs. Imagine the mess I would be in
> if
> > I
> > didn't work 3 jobs. And this says nothing about the time spent running
> > them
> > around and vacations etc. Why does it matter that the state set limit?
> If
> > you checked out the number kids who never get child support like Alex,
> > perhaps you would understand the necessity for state set limits. The sad
> > truth is many people value money over people. Hate your ex-wife by all
> > means
> > but don't begrudge you child your support - finanacially or emotionally.
> > It
> > is not the child fault.
> >
> > Trisha
> >
> >
> > > Biggest raise I've ever had in my life, but college starts this fall
> > > <sigh>.
> > > Oh well, at least it's Dad's decision to open his wallst, and not the
> > > State
> > > doing it for him!
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: BG Greer, PhD [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > > Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:19 AM
> > > To: [log in to unmask]
> > > Subject: Re: current events
> > >
> > >
> > > In a message dated 6/3/02 8:13:33 AM, [log in to unmask] writes:
> > >
> > > >eh, congratsa kyle...
> > >
> > > Me too, Kyle. Now you, Laura and the kids will have more "cheese" to
> go
> > > around.
> > >
> > > Bobby
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