I have had some experience in being a primary care giver and I truly
feel you need to take some of the responsibility off of yourselves. If I
was in your shoes I would call his doctor and explain the situation and
tell him you need to know your father-in-law's medical history so you
know what you're dealing with. I'd then proceed from there. If he has a
condition that he isn't telling you about you could be at a
disadvantage. If nothing else, and I hate to say it on this forum, start
to work with a dietitian(I know, I know, you don't have to say it).
Shouldering all the responsibility, as I said, isn't fair to you and
what ever (s)he gave you as a diet, couldn't be worse than chocolate
milk and velveeta. I think I'm trying to say take care of yourself as
well as your Dad and don't do this for the long term without outside
help,
Chris


pook la roux wrote:

> I could really use some good creative food
> suggestions.  My father in law has come to live with
> us again. He is very ill, basically, he is losing
> elasticity in the tissues of his internal organs. This
> is seen as a terminal condition. (What exactly is
> going on we can't be sure. Dad is secretive about his
> medical issues.) He had surgery years ago to remove a
> blockage in his intestines which basically equates to
> some of the kinds of bariatric surgery that is being
> done today.  So anyways, that's the background. It's
> excruciatingly hard for him to keep any weight on his
> bones at all.
>
> The challenge: all Dad wants to eat is milk with
> hershey's chocolate syrup in it, and grilled cheese
> sandwiches made with velveeta on cheap white bread.