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Subject: TR: Quarter Life Crisis- for my fellow twenty somethings!!
Date: Mon, 25 Jun 2001 16:27:53 +0200
From: "Aboulou, Aline" <[log in to unmask]>
To: "'Dave Manneh'" <[log in to unmask]>


For my fellow twenty-somethings- might even appeal to some thirty
somethings!  -L

"Quarter-life Crisis"

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along
with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about
yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or
two,
but then get hot and scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those
friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the
greatest people
you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of
the
most important ones.

What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not
really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused
as you are.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would
be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are
going
to have to start at the bottom and are scared.

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the
same
people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't
so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not
want.
Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than
usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in
your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is
not.

You are insecure and then secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.
You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with
dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further
away
and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such
damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone
decent enough to get to know better.

You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out
why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting
wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk
with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make
a
decision.

You wonder what in the hell is wrong with you.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for
yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just
like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it and
we are all in this together. We are in our best of times and our worst
of
times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

We are making a lot of mistakes, but helping one another learn from them
and reaching out to pull one another up.
We are not the shiniest group of people, but we are very much a circle.
We are there for one another and will listen and help heal and grow for
the
rest of our lives.

We will piss one another off, but we will also heal one another's
hearts.
We are the group who will always call on birthdays and laugh at the end
of a conversation that started with angry words.

We are a group that talks trash about the same people we call to meet up
with on a Friday night, but we are sorry about it and we know that they
know that we were just being insecure like they have been.

We are friends and in 10 years, when we have figured out where we fit in
in this world, we will still be friends always and forever! For my
fellow
twenty-somethings!  -L

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