I agree with Bobby and the others.  Once your pregnant ask you OB where to
find a doula to help you out.  They are usually women who are nurses who can
come in and do some light housekeeping.  Something of a mother's
helper/birth coach.  Usually, you hire one later in pregancy but,
considering the cp, you may wish to have one earlier.
Resources to look at include throughthelookingglass.com a resource for women
with disabilities (you may know that already), check with your church if you
go to see if you can have someone at least drop by to see how you are doing,
there are local companies that have monitoring services with prices
dependent on you needs.

After baby, get an OT or someone else in there to take a look at you and
help with your needs in the house.  Also, let the doctor know you have been
having some difficulties.

How's the Clomid?

Beth the OT

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-----Original Message-----
From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
[mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of Barber, Kenneth L.
Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2001 7:18 AM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: I need opinions


jennifer,
  1st chris loves you, we can tell that,
  2nd it is not terrible to have help
  3rd especially when pregnant see 2nd above.

-----Original Message-----
From: Jennifer Lahiff [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Saturday, May 26, 2001 11:39 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: I need opinions


Since we are on the subject of independence ... I need opinions on my
situation ... When my husband and I got together, I was much more "abled"
bodied then I am now ... Even though I am still able to get around our
apartment by myself... I find myself stumbling in unsafe places ... and
tasks are becoming harder for me to complete in an  expected time frame
(lol...so many examples!)
Anyway, Chris is finding it harder to leave in the morning without knowing
that I'm safe, and being able to get a drink (lets say) without worrying
whether or not I can open a bottle ...
He wants me to get someone to "look after" me a few hrs of the day ... to
make sure I'm ok... I'm stubborn!!! And until this thread was first posted,
I
never thought of the potential importance of having someone help me since I
grew up always having to deal with it... Am I making sense..???
And when and if I get pregnant...wouldn't it be wise for someone to be there
watching after me some of the time???? Where can I look to get a person to
help me?? Do I even qualify??  I'm mostly venting...so forgive me
Jennifer
ps- When Chris and I take a vacation... It's quite hard to find an
accessible
restroom...so in that case  I do too wear protective underwear while on the
road ... I never had to use them ..but it's comfort in knowing I have that
if
worst comes to worst...

((((((sorry so long))))))))