Joanne dear,
In my not humble opinion you're missing Kyle's point. He's made his.
I'll make mine.
Adults with CP are not children with CP. Children's conditions cannot
extrapolate our adult experiences. We cannot be "fixed" and made
"better." As we age we often come to doubt our ability to meet
responsibilities as parents, spouses, wage earners, community activists,
etc. We encounter too much strain and pain as we cope with the normally
abnormal demands of modern life. We contend with the possibility that
our bodies will break down, not allow us to accomplish our goals and
obligations. We develop gallows humor, toughness, and keen intelligence
to make our way. Not everybody gets this, not everybody needs to, not
everybody can.
Kyle and Ken haven't been having all great days lately. Bobby's feeling
the crunch. Mag and Carla ouch. Deri's having a heap. Most know my
stuff. While competent adults, our CP makes for day to day uncertainty.
No contraception shields us now.
I interpret Kyle's "disgust" had nothing to do with your sticking up for
kids--for which, after all, Kyle, Ken, and most parents, including quite
obviously yourself, devote much. He responded to your misconception of
his banter. He and Ken were engaging Friday at the office stress relief
and chatter.
You say you have your own disabilities. Perhaps we would know you
better if you discuss them. You may have been less misunderstood had
you directly revealed your impressions of others reactions to your
having seven children. My tease t your post suggested you more
acknowledge your responsibility in the acts than putting the thrust on
your husband. Perhaps others were being humorous.
Sincerely,
Steve
----- Original Message -----
From: Cleveland, Kyle E. <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Friday, October 27, 2000 2:52 PM
Subject: Re: Sun Newspapers - Sun Current Voter's Guide - South St. Paul
C
ity Council
> Huh??????????????? Blame the kids for needing to stay?????????? Good
Lord,
> lady, don't you recognize humor when you read it?
Sorry Kyle,
After posting about having 7 kids I got emails about using
contraceptives
and having time to give to them. I guess I was reacting to that.
>
> Besides, Joanne, if you knew anything at all about Ken and myself you
would
> understand that we are talking about our physical ability to work
enough
> years to see our children to adulthood. Doesn't have anything to do
with
> retaining a bad job.
>
> BTW--You don't have CP, but your kids do, right?
One does and I have my own disabilites.
>
> Kyle (shaking head in disgust)
Why digust for sticking up for the kids?
Joanne
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: joanne [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Friday, October 27, 2000 2:32 PM
> Subject: Re: Sun Newspapers - Sun Current Voter's Guide - South St.
Paul
> C ity Council
>
>
> --
> I can understand working a job you're not happy about to retain
benifits,
> wages etc but it's unfair to blame the kids for the need to stay. They
had
> no say in thier conception and being honest now those hugs and I love
you's
> and the fact that they think your the best thing since slice bread
And I
> know teens think your the oldest and dumbest thing since sliced bread
but
> that passes) makes it all worthwhile.
> Jaonne
> > From: Cleveland, Kyle E. [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > Sent: Friday, October 27, 2000 11:31 AM
> > Subject: Re: Sun Newspapers - Sun Current Voter's Guide - South St.
Paul
> > C ity Council
> >
> >
> > Geez, Ken, Alex won't start kindergarten for three more years. Now
I'm
> > really bummed.
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Barber, Kenneth L. [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > Sent: Friday, October 27, 2000 11:23 AM
> > Subject: Re: Sun Newspapers - Sun Current Voter's Guide - South St.
Paul
> > C ity Council
> >
> >
> > i will be eligable to get out in 3 yrs. from feb 24. bj will still
be
in
> > school so i am not deluded enough to think i can actually leave.
> >
>
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