I think we can be at peace with ourselves and each other.  We are here
to be supportive, understanding, affirm each other, and applaud our
triumph of getting through life as people with CP.

I for one am glad that Rayna decided to stay.  And I want to thank my
friends for saying and doing what they know I know was right and proper
and for the good of all.

Happy Friday.  I'm going back to sleep.

S.


----- Original Message -----
From: "Rayna Lamb" <[log in to unmask]>
Newsgroups: bit.listserv.c-palsy
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2001 11:27 PM
Subject: Re: Can't We all Just Get Along :)


> Please can we all stop talking about this, I'm feeling really
> uncomfortable. PLEASE.  I never used any names or initials in my posts
> about this.  Please, can we all talk about other things.
>
> Rayna
>
> On Thu, Apr 05, 2001 at 09:11:52PM -0300, Carla MacInnis wrote:
>       ISM, when you grow up with 5 lads, it is never lost on you how
icky they
>     can be some times. Taking chocolates out of the box, and having a
bite and
>     then putting it back is something I remember them doing; annoyed
me then,
>     and it annoys me now :)  Besides, it was you had the chocolates.
So there,
>     too! :)
>
>       And yes, I agree, young ladies need to mind their manners. But
I'm old and
>     crotchety, so don't mess with me! I agree again that no one is
perfect and I
>     don't think anyone, including myself was particularly ascribing to
you what
>     we cannot acknowlege in ourselves.
>
>       Given that I did not know and do not know what transpired
between you and
>     Rayna, and don't care to know, I can't speak to any of that.
>
>       I think it's important for us to take this list for what it is
.. a
>     meeting place for anyone and everyone who may share that "thing"
known as
>     cerebral palsy. There are those among us who never have had nor
never will
>     have many of the life experiences of  some of the others, whether
it be a
>     relatively happy home life, a moderately or highly successful
school life, a
>     solid career life, marriage and family. On a certain level, we
bring a
>     degree of emotional baggage with us to these "helping" lists and
sometimes,
>     without much provocation, it slips out. We then must examine what
it really
>     was, about what may have been said, that upset us, annoyed us,
hurt us. In
>     other words, who is the real target?
>
>       This list needs to be a safe place for everyone, and you're
right, we're
>     entitled to our opinions. I for one, would like to see some more
serious
>     threads going on. No doubt there are many lurkers (some young,
some old) out
>     there who might benefit from what we have learned as we travel
this path
>     known as "living with cerebral palsy". Maybe, just maybe, with our
>     collective help, those who are dealing with touchy life issues
might get the
>     help they don't see themselves getting in their "real" lives. Key
to success
>     of anything of this sort is that we not undermine the feelings of
others.
>     What may seem a huge problem for one might seem trivial to someone
else. Be
>     that as it may, it would be nice for us to feel comfortable enough
unloading
>     as the need arises.
>
>       I could start by telling you all about Expo 67, which I didn't
get to see
>     while my brothers and sisters did.
>
>     Cheers!
>
>     Carla
>     http://www.brunnet.net/terrier