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----- Original Message -----
From: Betty Alfred <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Friday, May 12, 2000 10:15 PM
Subject: Re: [DateAbilities] GETTING TO KNOW YOU SURVEY FOR SINGLES


> Man, when you answer a question, you really answer it.  I was impressed
when
> I read what you had to say too.  My relationship with my Mom has never
been
> open like that.  But she had a very parochial upbringing and never escaped
> it.  She's way on the prudish side.  I couldn't have lived up to certain
of
> her expectations no matter how hard I might have tried (I didn't try, by
the
> way).
>
> I thought the post was okay too.  I am just not in touch with what most
> parents want their kids to be exposed to.  You are not a kid, I don't mean
it
> that way.  If my Mother knew I was up here writing about anal or oral sex
> right now she'd have "pretend" hysterics, and I'm 41.
>
> Shhh...here she comes.
>
> Okay she's gone.  Whew!  That was TOO close!
>
> As I believe I said once before, any parent would be proud and honored to
> have you for a daughter.  I would.  I have a tendency to feel a little
> protective of younger people, but I have also found out from being around
> Amber that I may be a bit out of touch with what protection is really
> necessary.  On the other hand, I know another teenager who is only one
year
> your junior.  He is not as ready to talk about some things as I believe
you
> probably were last year.  Everyone is different.
>
> You didn't ramble at all, and I loved reading what you had to say.  I
asked
> out of idle curiosity, nothing more.  You really have a lot on the ball
Joy.
>
> Betty
>
>
>  [log in to unmask] writes:
>
> << Interesting question... I think I'd be more confused than angry or
upset.
>  We've always had a very open and close relationship, and my parents trust
me
>  without any reservation.  I've earned that trust, and haven't done
anything
>  to abuse it.  The times in my life that I've been most upset have been
not
>  when my parents were angry, but when they were disappointed.  I feel like
>  it's my responsibility to live up to their opinion of me, and be the kind
of
>  responsible person that they think I am.  That doesn't really answer your
>  question though, does it?
>
>  I guess I'd question why they were so concerned by a mention of anal and
>  oral sex.  The post wasn't explicit.  It's not like I was being
>  propositioned, or propositioning someone else.  I've read more graphic
>  descriptions of sex in my bio and human development books.  But, if they
>  were really uncomfortable with the content on this list, I'd have to go
with
>  their judgment.  Just like they have no reason to doubt my judgment, I
have
>  no reason to doubt theirs.  They've never pulled the "I'm your parent and
I
>  know what's best for you" card unless it was really important, so on the
>  rare occasions that they do, I go with it.
>
>  Does that make any sense?  I know the relationships that we have are very
>  unusual.  I think part of it is being an only child, and part is that
>  because of my disability, we spend a lot of time together.  My family is
>  very close-knit as a result, and we tend to be very open with concerns
like
>  this.  If you want to know more, just ask.  I'm happy to discuss this
>  further, but I think I'm rambling!
>
>  ~Joy~ >>
>