Betty,

My family just went through all of this with my grandma.  She also didn't
want to die in a hospital.

Hospice was WONDERFUL!

I just wanted to let you know that you and your mom are in our prayers!

Amanda





----- Original Message -----
From: Betty Alfred <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, June 03, 2000 12:54 AM
Subject: Re: May I vent? Personal/off topic


> Thanks Beth -- I think plans are in place to help us in the best way
> possible.
>
> Today was fine, except that I had a bit of a fight keeping Mom in the
> hospital over the weekend (or at least until Sunday).  That's a long
boring
> story, but in spite of my complaints I am reminded of the good people who
> have been involved in Mom's care.
>
> Hospice is bringing in a hospital bed, bedside commode, hospital table,
and a
> wheelchair for her.  Those things will come Sunday and Hospice will meet
with
> us on Monday afternoon.
>
> I'm glad for Mom because she will be at home and I will be with her almost
> all the time.  She is so afraid of having to leave her home and dying in a
> strange place, but tonight she talked with me about the reality of the
> situation and how we have to talk about business issues such as estate
> planning.  She doesn't have a lot of time to go through Kubler-Ross'
stages,
> and she is trying to act responsibly about this.
>
> Next week she might yell at me in frustration.  I know things like that
will
> happen.  I'll just have to ride it out.  I think I'd be inclined to want
to
> yell myself in her situation.  I'm a grown woman and I'm hoping that I've
> been around the block enough times to be able to place the anger I'm sure
> will surface in its proper perspective.
>
> In a message dated 06/02/2000 9:40:10 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
> [log in to unmask] writes:
>
> > May you vent...
> >  Please do dear.  May you both find peace together.  Remember some days
you
> >  are just going to hear Blah, Blah, Blah from the docs.  Hang in there
and
> >  get some help.
> >
> >  Beth the OT
> >
>