<<In a healthy society, you would consider your attractiveness and good
looks as
simply good fortune that enables you get men to want to spend more time with
you.   Then, once they get to know you, they would discover your sterling
character, depths of emotion, endless wit, and brilliant intellect....>>

And, as in this unhealthy society, most would be entirely uninterested  in
depth and intellect.   It matters not, anymore.  I found my answer to this
dilemma.

Siobhan