Renee,

        In a text I helped write one time, I wrote of the "stigma barrier.
You comment, "It has always been my experience that once most people get to
know me the disability fades into the background." encapsulates the idea
very effieciently. As far as the personal ad, you might try something cute
like, "A
little spastic to look at, but a warm .... person really." I don't know,
really.
Having been married 36 years, it would be ludivrous for me to give advice
in the "Dating Game", but nothing's ever stopped me from giving advice!! LOL

Bobby