Hi Kathy,

         I believe as long as you do not mention people by name - you are
not violating their privacy - when  said as  I know someone who or someone
said - one can ne talking about anyone including the man in the moon . I
certainly do it all time. Not that its relevant but I don't care even if my
name is mentioned.

                                       Trisha

>Hello Tobby and everybody ,

>May I share the information we discuss on this list with people that help
me
>that are NOT on this list?
>
>Kathy
>
>
>
>
>----- Original Message -----
>From: Toddy <[log in to unmask]>
>To: <[log in to unmask]>
>Sent: Wednesday, November 10, 1999 5:09 PM
>Subject: Re: Depression and disability
>
>
>> >
>>
>>   Re: Depression and disability
>>
>> Hello everyone.
>> I have been reading the recent posts with great interest.  Hope it's not
>too late
>> for me to
>> add my 2 cents.  A while back there was a thread regarding adults with CP
>and
>> parents of
>> children with CP.  I wanted to jump in but was too chicken.  Maybe I can
>tie the
>> two
>> together.
>>
>> Are any of you familiar with the grieving progress?  As I understand it
>when we
>> experience loss we go through a grieving process.  The stages are Denial
&
>> Isolation,
>> Anger, Bargaining, Depression and finally Acceptance.  When a child is
>disabled,
>> the
>> parent goes through the grieving process.  Later the PWD will go through
>the
>> process,
>> probably several times at various ages.  It is possible for a person be
>get stuck
>> for years or
>> for a lifetime in any one of the stages.
>>
>> As an advocate for the disabled and as a special ed. paraprofessional I
>have come
>> across
>> PWDs and parents in all stages.  And it's not a one time deal, we cycle
>through
>> again and
>> again.  It can be briefly.  You catch a glimpse of your reflection and
>think "that
>> can't be
>> me".  A major change or loss can send you through the cycle again Big
>Time.  It
>> can take
>> months or even years.
>>
>> This group has made me realize how very fortunate I have been.  I grew up
>in a
>> loving
>> and accepting family.  My parents and grandparents did some remarkable
>things for
>> me
>> when I was little.  I'll save that for another time.
>>
>> I had a bout with depression when I hit fifty-something and noticed a
>decided
>> physical
>> change.  Was getting slower, stiffer and feeling worn out.  I was
>convinced it was
>>
>> somehow related to aging CP but I could find little or no information.
On
>the
>> bright side,
>> I found this group.
>>
>> Toddy
>>