Jo, << I've since relaxed and have a far easier time of it. The labels have gone or going fast....don't beat myself if I eat this or don't eat that.........based a relationship on what the other person ate (a natural hygienist).......... That leveraged fear of not finding a suitable partner >> Hi Again Jo. I think the important things to remember are that: 1) there are a lot of other things in life besides food. Food is just fuel (hopefully awesomely delicious for a few minutes, if you get it just right) but basically you just need some meals now and then to be able to do the OTHER fun things of life. 2) The world as it is has a couple of small problems, so having a sense of humour, and some compassion and patience, help. And the only way to have any influence or change things for the better is through one-on-one personal relationships, and modelling (not arguing or trying to convince, but modelling) integrity, courage, and whatever other qualities you wish you'd see more of. 3) You personally will grow more and get smarter, and you will have a wider influence, if you can figure out how to have close relationships with people who are different from you, instead of the same. There are lots more people on the planet who are NOT Hygienists than there are those who are. Love, Liza [log in to unmask] (Liza May)