After age 50 or 52, I became very convinced of the civility of closing the lid of the commode after use. Took long enough. We've been listening to your wife bitch about that for years. Now whenever I see it open, it reminds me of a really, really fat person in a bikini. A toilet set with the lid up reminds you of a fat person in a bikini? I don't know whether you should see a shrink or an optometrist. The shrink would probably say "both."